Why You Should Write Letters For Your Wedding Morning
Why You Should Write Letters For Your Wedding Morning
Take control of the narrative used in your wedding film and tell your story in the most emotional and authentic way
Your wedding day will fly by in a blur of excitement, joy, and love. But amid the whirlwind, there are moments of quiet intimacy—moments that, when captured thoughtfully, can become the heart of your wedding film.
One of the most powerful ways to personalise your wedding story is by writing letters to each other and reading them aloud on the morning of your wedding. These letters do more than express your love—they give you control over the narrative and set your wedding film apart from any other.
As a wedding videographer, I’ve seen firsthand how these letters transform a beautiful film into something truly personal, emotional, and unforgettable. Typically, and traditionally, we would rely on your wedding ceremony and wedding speeches to extract the story of your day and tell that story within your wedding film. However, with a simple letter reading, you can guarantee that emotive and authentic story of yours is conveyed in the perfect way.
Here’s why you should consider writing letters for your wedding morning—and how they’ll make your wedding film uniquely yours.
The Power of Personal Letters in a Wedding Film
A wedding film isn’t just about capturing the visual beauty of your day—it’s about telling your love story. While vows and speeches play a part, they often focus on the public celebration of your marriage.
A private letter, on the other hand, is a personal window into your relationship. It’s a chance to express your hopes, promises, and memories in a way that’s intimate and unfiltered. I believe in diving deep into the stories of my couples and extracting everything I can and over the years I have come to realise that the single best way of doing this, to bring the emotion to life within a wedding film, is by a letter reading.
When you read these letters aloud, they become the emotional backbone of your wedding film—offering a voice to your love story that nothing else can replicate. It makes the film truly unique to you and helps take a snapshot of your history together.
Why Letters Enhance Your Wedding Film:
A Personal Touch: Your words, in your voice, make the film uniquely yours.
Emotional Depth: Letters capture feelings you might not express in a crowded room.
Timeless Memories: Your letter becomes a beautiful keepsake, both in print and on film.
Narrative Control: You shape how your love story is told—highlighting what matters most to you.
How Letters Give You Control Over Your Story
Without personal narration, your wedding film relies on external moments—vows, speeches, and music—to tell your story. While these are powerful, they don’t always reflect the personal nuances that make your relationship special. They can also be- and I say this fro personal experience from my time behind the camera- remarkably unreliable.
Maybe it could be nerves on the day, or perhaps the people conducting your speeches hate public speaking or simply aren’t the most forthcoming with sentimental words- whatever it potentially is, I have filmed a number of weddings where I have struggled for narrative content.
By writing and reading letters, you control the message:
Share inside jokes or meaningful memories.
Reflect on your journey together and what the future holds.
Express promises that go beyond traditional vows.
Tell the highlights of your journey- how you met, your first dates or memorable moments.
Rather than relying on someone else’s words, your voices become the thread that ties your film together.
As a bonus point to this, it is also an amazing way to feature the bride’s voice within her wedding film. Quite often, especially within a traditional wedding day, the bride may not actually say anything on film outside of her wedding vows. By filming a letter reading it gives me the opportunity to feature the brides voice and story within the film, making it infinitely more personal.
Emotional Impact: Creating a Film That Feels Personal
Imagine watching your wedding film years from now—not just seeing the moment you walked down the aisle, but hearing the words your partner wrote to you in those final quiet minutes before saying "I do."
These personal touches turn your wedding film from a visual record into an emotional time capsule—one that transports you back to exactly how you felt on your wedding day. There are many ways to create an emotional impact in a wedding film, but honestly, not many strike as hard as those deeply personal words you can read in a letter.
A Letter Adds:
Intimacy – Sharing private emotions makes the film feel raw and real.
Story Structure – Your letters guide the film’s narrative arc.
Voice & Personality – It’s not just a highlight reel—it’s your story, in your words.
Tips for Writing the Perfect Wedding Morning Letter
Not sure where to start? Here are a few tips to help you craft a letter that’s meaningful and perfect for your wedding film:
1. Be Authentic
Write how you speak—don’t worry about being poetic or perfect. Your partner wants to hear your voice, exactly as it is. Trying to make yourself sound different to how you naturally are will make the whole reading feel unnatural.
2. Share Memories
Include specific moments that shaped your relationship—your first date, a shared adventure, or a time they supported you when you needed it most. These are the moments that define who you are as a couple- they have been instrumental in how you have both goten to this day.
3. Express Your Promises
What do you vow to bring to your marriage? Personalize these promises beyond the ceremony—whether it’s always making them coffee or standing by them through life’s ups and downs. This is amazing if you are not having personal wedding vows, as it gives you that opportunity to express what you want to promise to your partner.
4. Speak to the Future
What excites you most about your future together? Paint a picture of the life you’re building.
5. Keep It Short & Sweet
A heartfelt letter doesn’t need to be lengthy—1 to 2 pages is perfect. Focus on quality over quantity.
Real-Life Examples: How Letters Transform a Wedding Film
I’ve filmed countless weddings, but the ones that stay with me are always the ones where couples share their hearts through letters. As a wedding videographer who specialises and focusses on narrative-based storytelling to create a bespoke wedding film, letter readings are the corner-stone of my work.
🎥 A Heartfelt Love Story - A bride and groom both read letters to each other on their wedding morning, conveying exactly what the day means to the both.
🎥 A Mother’s Words – A bride who had lost her mother included a letter her mother wrote before she passed, allowing her presence to live on through her voice.
🎥 The Brides Journey – A bride narrates the beginning of her wedding film in a very emotional message to her groom.
These personal moments bring depth, emotion, and individuality—and they make every wedding film as unique as the couple it represents.
Final Thoughts
Your wedding day is more than a celebration—it’s a story. Writing letters for your wedding morning allows you to shape that story, making your wedding film a deeply personal reflection of your love.
If you want a wedding film that captures not just the moments, but the meaning behind them—I’m here to make that happen.